What to do (and what not to do) when you're mad at your parents

You can’t get along with everyone all of the time. That truth definitely extends to your parents. You live in the same house, share the same genes, and know the best ways to push each other’s buttons. But how do you deal with your parents when you argue? We’ve got a few ideas.

Remember whom you’re talking to.
Your parents are human. They do and say things they shouldn’t; they make mistakes. But even in the middle of a heated argument, your mom is still your mom and your dad is still your dad. And as a believer, you’re called to respect your parents and treat them as you’d like to be treated. So before you throw out that sarcastic remark, remember whom you’re talking to and treat your parents with the respect they deserve!

Figure out why you get so mad.
Make a list of the things you and your parents argue about most. When you’re finished, look it over and figure out what makes you so angry in those situations. Is it because your parents flat out disagree with you or that they won’t at least see your point of view? When you know why you’re angry, you can take steps to avoid arguments or even solve the problem.

Don’t let anger do the talking.
When you’re angry, it’s easy to let the emotion take control and say and do things you wish you hadn’t. That’s especially disastrous when the person at the receiving end of your anger is your mom or dad. When you feel anger taking control, take a deep breath and refrain from talking. Count to . Pray about your attitude and ask for wisdom. If emotions are running high on all sides, it may be best to table the conversation and return to it when cooler heads can prevail.

Compromise.
You’re not always right, and neither are your parents. Usually both of you have to give a little to end a disagreement or solve the problem you’re facing. Suggest a compromise and set the example for your parents.

Listen!
This one is true for any disagreement or relationship. Listen when your parents talk. Even if it makes you mad, keep your ears and mind open. Try to see things from the other person's point of view; don't spend all the time your mom or dad is talking thinking about what you're going to say next. That means you're not listening, you're not trying to solve the problem, and proves that you're being selfish and want your way at all costs.

Don't interrupt.
Don’t interrupt or offer explanations when your parents are talking. Just listen! This one is particularly annoying to parents. Interrupting can be disrespectful, especially since it doesn't allow the person you've interrupted to get his or her point across. Your parents deserve that right. That doesn't mean you can't say anything. It just means that you need to let your mom and dad make their points without comment from you, and when the time is right explain your point of view. But do so respectfully and with a focus on reaching an agreement or resolving the conflict.